Essay Sacrifice Mother

Being a parent means sacrificing your future for your kid’s future.

Parents strive to make kid’s lives better before they come in this world and continue to do that till their last breath. The sacrifices they make for their children are innumerable, I’ve tried to put some of those  sacrifices here:

 

  • Time
    After becoming parent a couple’s life is centered around their little bundle of joy. A couple transforms into a mom and dad and everything that was before ‘us’ is now ‘our baby’. Throughout their life, parents dedicate their time directly or indirectly for their kids. Even relaxing after a busy day at work seems difficult as little baby is eagerly waiting to play with the parents the whole day. The ‘Me time’ is out of the schedule forever for a parent.

 

  • Emotions
    This is one of the biggest sacrifice someone makes as a parent. Emotional Quotient(EQ) is more important than Intelligence Quotient(IQ). An emotionally stable person is happier than someone who’s not. Our parents change their lives for us, but it does hurt their emotional health. There are some people and moments in their lives which provide them emotional security. But due to parental responsibilities they can’t meet that often. All these sacrifices dissipate their emotional health.

 

  • Money
    Parents spend money to fulfill all the kid’s needs right from childhood. They provide the best education possible and sometimes go beyond their limits to give kids better opportunities. These sacrifices take a great toll on their financial planning. Also the great Indian wedding, is a big enough expense to empty their pockets. If it’s a girl then parents go to the point of taking loans in old age to marry their girl by giving dowry at times. A son is expected to share financial responsibilities of his parents when they age. But if the son doesn’t earn it is worse for parents in their old age.

 

  • Relationships
    The first relationship that gets affected with the birth of a baby are of the parents themselves. The spouse are now first mom or dad. The priority list changes and suddenly baby tops the list of all relationships. Some friends and family members drift apart from parents emotionally. Life is now defined by relations that are important to parent and not individual. At times, parent may lose a treasured relation of lifetime because of kid’s misbehavior.

 

  • Personal life
    As we discussed the ‘Me and We time’ is out of the time table for the parents. A kid demands undivided attention till s/he becomes independent. By that time the age and financial independence is over for the parents. Post retirement they do find time for themselves, but the golden days of adulthood are lost in creating a life for kids than themselves. Many parents suffer relationship issues with their partner because they spend their lives either working or caring for kids. This causes a fading emotional connect between spouses.

 

  • Freedom
    Our parents curb all their freedom of choices for us. It can be freedom to take a job their heart desires, to live in city they like, to pursue their hobbies, to spend money the way they want. But they give up all choices for us. They rather chose a job that pays well, a city that’s suitable for our future, save money for our education and future needs. It is possible that they could’ve succeeded and lived happier if they had enjoyed their freedom of choice.

 

  • Social life
    The social life of parents takes a backseat after the baby. Once the baby grows up, schooling becomes the epicenter of parents to expand their social life. Once the kid is settled in live professionally and personally, they find time to expand their social circle. As individuals the growth parents would’ve gained personally, socially and professionally would’ve been way better the other way.

 

  • Career
    Majority of the times a mother sacrifices. Biologically having a major part in child birth, she puts everything on hold, including her professional life. Naturally father has to give his career more importance to fulfill family needs. Many parents take up jobs that allow them to spend more time with kids.

 

  • Food
    Parents usually give up on their favorite foods to inculcate healthy eating in kids. Going to restaurant that everyone else but the kid likes; giving up major portion of everyone’s favorite food to the kid to relish. Some less well to do parents have to even give up a one-time meal to feed their kids.

 

  • Desires
    Starting from their wardrobe, to the house decor, to the car, all are decided to suit the kid’s comfort or later are ruled by her choices. Holiday plans are decided by kid’s education. Later parents are dependent on kids post retirement they even have to shift city to be with them. It’s very difficult, leaving the place they spend their lives and adjusting in a new setup in the old age.

Parents have unconditional love for kids. With old age parents become our kids and need love and care. Remember, a parent never retires. Maybe their words of wisdom don’t hold relevance in today’s world, but experience is the best teacher. After all sacrifices if a parent doesn’t even get love and respect, imagine the trauma they’ll suffer. The world is becoming smaller and we need to move places to grow professionally. We don’t need to drag our parents in their old age everywhere. Just genuine love and being there when they need us is more than sufficient for them to feel proud of their upbringing.

There’s one thought that I will mention, it’s very true for me, as a daughter, and now as a mother,

“The more I go through parenting, the more I owe an apology to my parents.” 

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Medha

Life is very short let’s live it the best. I am a learner forever, everyone around me teaches something that adds to my personality. And I love to share my thoughts and experiences with others, provided it interests them! Trying new things, meeting new people and traveling to new places interest me. This is reflected in my career from a Mechanical Engineer, to a Trainer, to a mother and now a budding writer!

#1: Thank You For Staying Up With Us

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Whether rocking us back to sleep as babies, or comforting us during a terrible thunderstorm, our moms didn’t get “time off,” even in the middle of the night.

Of course, knowing that they were there for us whenever we needed them kept us feeling safe and secure.

And while we may never repay our mothers for all the late nights they spent with us, we can surely give them a big “Thank you.”

#2: Thank You For Putting Us First

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Our mothers consistently put us first, making us the number one priority in their lives.

This is not to say that our moms didn’t have friends or social obligations. But taking care of us has always been more important than anything else.

Mother’s Day might just be the perfect time for us to say “Thank you for always choosing me.”

#3: Thank You For Keeping Us Fed

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Our moms always knew that a full belly was a happy belly. This might have meant amazing dinners together at home, or even the occasional meal out.

And sometimes our moms would let us have the very last bite — even though they might still be hungry.

So it’s likely time to give our mothers a big “Thank you” hug for keeping us fed for so many years.

#4: Thank You For Giving Up Your Quiet Time

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As children, we might have been more than a little unpredictable, yelling in anger one minute and laughing gleefully the next.

But whatever our moods, we can be certain that we were often loud.

Our mothers understood that quiet time was rare and precious. But they were willing to give up on this quiet time to make sure we knew we were loved.

We might not shout or scream anymore as adults, but for Mother’s Day, we can shout “Thank you for letting me be so loud!”

#5: Thank You For Letting Us Crawl In Bed

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Sometimes we had nightmares, other times we simply missed being close to our mothers.

But nothing comforted us quite so much as our moms letting us crawl in bed with them.

Even when it meant giving up on “adult time,” our moms gave us a safe and secure place to close our eyes and drift to sleep.

Mother’s Day is a great time to give our mothers a large hug to show our appreciation for letting us cuddle up next to them.

#6: Thank You For Being There In Sickness And Health

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These incredible women in our lives didn’t get to take a day off from motherhood, even when they weren’t feeling 100 percent.

A household with children is, by necessity, a household with germs. In spite of everyone’s best efforts to keep the family healthy, colds and illnesses inevitably went around.

But our sick moms still fought through the sneezing and the sore throats to be there for us, which certainly deserves a huge “Thanks!”

#7: Thank You For Bringing Us Joy

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Our mothers loved seeing a big smile on our faces.

Whether making sure there was a toy from Santa under the Christmas tree, or giving us a birthday cake so we could make a wish as we blew out the candles, our mothers thrived on bringing us joy.

Instead of trying to repay our moms financially for all the gifts or small gestures (which is likely impossible), we can repay them in spades with our undying love and appreciation this Mother’s Day.

#8: Thank You For Spending Time With Us

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Even if it wasn’t their favorite TV show, our moms were willing to curl up on the couch with us and watch an over-the-top cartoon — sometimes for the 103rd time.

At the same time, our mothers shared their interests with us, playing us their music and read us some of their favorite books.

But at the end of the day, it was all about spending time together. This time is something we would never trade for anything in the world.

And maybe on Mother’s Day we can even let our moms pick the TV show for a change.

#9: Thank You For Letting Us Be Ourselves

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We know that as children we were often relentless balls of energy and vigor. And our mothers had to keep pace with us the whole way.

But they let us be our high-energy, creative selves, even if it cost them their sanity every now and again. Our mothers cultivated our interests and encouraged us to explore them.

Perhaps more than any other sacrifice, it is letting us be ourselves that deserves an enormous thanks.

So, on Mother's Day, all we really have to say is...

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…thank you!

How do you show thanks to the mothers among your family and friends? What other things do you want to thank your mom for this year? Let us know in the comments!

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